Wednesday, September 30, 2015

I am a writer.

I am a writer. It is my passion. My go-to creative outlet.

It is the reason I buy lottery tickets. Because I dream of having enough money to be able to spend my days writing and not worry about how I'm going to pay the bills.

And everyone that truly knows me...knows this about me.

But you know who doesn't seem to understand this? My life. Because in my life I never seem to find the time to pursue my passion. That taking the time to write anything longer than an occasional blog post is time that could be better spend doing something else.

So I have realized I must TAKE the time. I must make it a priority.  And today I did just that.

I had a rare full day off. There was lots of stuff I could have done.  Laundry. House cleaning. Appointment making. Closet organizing. And so on and so forth.

But I didn't do any of that.

Instead I pulled out all the work I have done over the past 8 (!) years on my novel, grabbed my laptop and headed out in search of the perfect cafe to write in.

I found it. Got myself a latte, settled down at a quiet corner table...and I wrote.


I forgot how much I had already written. How in-depth my characters already were. I fell right back into my fictional world and it felt good to be there again.

Three hours flew by and in that time I added 1,500 words to the more than 12,000 I had already written. And as I packed up my stuff I couldn't wipe the smile off my face.

Today was a good day for the writer in me.  And when she's happy...that makes everything better.

I plan to let her out to play a lot more often.

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Balance - A follow up post...

Back in May of 2012 I wrote about Work Life Balance.

It was one of my first posts and I have been reading through my old stuff lately in search of some perspective. Maybe even some reassurance - when my days feel dark - that some of the changes I have made in my life have actually been for the better.

And this post gave me that reassurance. Not because I have actually found that elusive perfect balance...but because I am much closer now than I was 3 years ago.

I am also a completely different person than I was 3 years ago. Through all my recent struggles I have gained a much stronger sense of self. I feel like I know myself better know than I ever have.

And reading this post reminded me that I was truly lost before. I was still trying to be all things to all people and in all of that I was continually putting myself last. And while I may have recognized that I was doing that...I wasn't fully aware of the damage it was doing to not just me...but everyone around me.

Back then I wrote this:

The aspect of my work life balance that inevitably gets the short end of the stick  My family obviously comes first - with kids crossing the line slightly ahead of hubby (sorry darling).  Then my job - because it doesn't just end at 5pm and it helps pay the bills. Then family and friends. And 

When my workload piles up it's my time at the gym that gets sacrificed so I can still be home for dinner with the family.  Girls night out or date night is scrapped so I can attend a board meeting at the daycare or a strata AGM. And so on. 

The most annoying part about all of this is that I am ultimately to blame for it.  I am the maker of my misery. Because I think I can do everything.  And as such I don't ask for help...just take it all on until it almost kills me.

That is the biggest lesson I have learned. I cannot do everything. No one can. And so I do ask for help.

Also - I've learned to say no rather than sacrificing time that I have set aside for me. And I've figured out that saying no is okay. It's more than's the smart thing to do.

I said no to joining the PAC at the elementary school. After 7 years on the daycare board I think I earned the right to a few years of committee-free life.

And by being brave enough to start my own company I now have a flexible work schedule that has allowed me to spend more quality time with my girls and still fulfill my need to be productive and creative. 

I have a lot of a work to do on myself still {don't we all} but I know from reading my past posts that I have come a long way from where I was back in 2012.

My kids will never be this age again. I will never be this young again. And each of those facts are reasons to enjoy every day to it's fullest.

And doing that...I have come to the first step in finding true balance.

I wonder what I will think of this post a few years from now...

Friday, September 18, 2015

Leading Moms: Inspiring "Me-Time" ...and a Contest!

Last year I made an excellent last minute decision to buy a ticket to attend the Leading Moms event. I had two friends that were going as Blog Ambassadors and it didn't take much for them to convince me to attend with them. (The last minute part was really just because I'm a terrible procrastinator.)

I was excited about the event but didn't really know what to expect. I thought I'd find some of the speakers interesting. Maybe gain a few bits of insight here and there. 

What I didn't expect was to be engaged with every single one of them. And to find my own kind of inspiration from each woman that took to the stage. I was truly saddened when the day came to a close and I had to go back to the real world. 

The bottom line is that for most of us women - mothers or not - there simply isn't enough inspiration in our life.

Our lives are busy. Our days are full and hectic. And our time is precious. But Leading Moms is an event that is worth your time. Trust me. 

And if you still aren't sure...check out one (or all!) of their various media channels for more convincing.  Start here with a video look at how 150 women were inspired at last year's event:

Then check out the rest of the website for details on the 2015 event line-up. With speakers like award-winning reporter and breast cancer survivor Mi-Jung Lee and many other that will share their personal journeys in motherhood in a mix of performance, video and intimate talks. 

And also be a part of the conversation on social media:  Facebook    and    Twitter

When you have done all that and I know you are totally itching to buy a ticket.  BUY YOURS HERE!

Tickets for the event are just $65 ($90 with lunch) BUT since we are such good friends you get to take advantage of a nice little discount. Get 15% off the ticket price by using the promo code "lmfriends" when you sign up. can try and win your way in!

I've got 2 ticket to the event burning a hole in my blog - and you can enter to win them by entering here:
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You must be able to attend the Leading Moms event on September 25 in Vancouver, BC in order to be eligible.

Make the time a part of something amazing and let yourself be inspired. This is the best way to spend some of your me-time...

See you there!

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Tuesday, September 8, 2015

First Day of School 2015

After a summer that felt like it was gone in a blink of an was the first day of school.

Well...actually...we really should call it the first hour of school because that's how long they were there for.

We went back to school shopping on Friday and the girls were so happy to put on their new running shoes and hoodies and backpacks and head out the door.

And so another school year begins...

Saturday, September 5, 2015

My little bookworm

I remember when I was a kid I always had my nose stuck in a book.

My reward for being good while we were grocery shopping was an Archie comic not a chocolate bar.

And my desk always had the biggest stack of books on it when the scholastic book order came in.

I love to read. And I am so happy that I have passed on that love of reading to my girls.  Both of them love books but I see so much more of myself in my oldest.

This is a pretty regular view of her these days...

the other day I bought myself a book on how to write and publish your first novel. It went missing off my desk and I couldn't find it anywhere.

I should have checked her room first...

Clearly if I don't get serious about my own writing soon...she's going to get published first!

Maybe I should see if she wants to do it together...

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Milestone Moment: Holes in the Ears

Today - after weeks of (seemingly endless) discussion and debate - my 9 year old decided she was ready to get her ears pierced. 
It was a big moment...for both of us. Because these are the moments that mark the passing of time. That mark her growing up.

I remember getting my ears pierced. I was 8 and it was a tremendously hellish experience.

My "ear care professional" was new...didn't know what she was doing...and managed to get the "pain free" ear piercing gun stuck on my left earlobe.

And it hurt like a son of a &%@!#. I don't actually remember how they managed to get the 2nd ear done but I suspect my mother had a hand in that black magic.  I picture myself unconscious on the chair...the offending gun still hanging from my left ear while my mother took matters into her own hand and finished the job herself.

Anyways...I digress. Luckily my daughters experience was quite the opposite of mine.

We went to Claire's and I searched through the staff until I found one that looked closer to my age than my daugther's and whose name tag had the word "Manager" on it.

She walked M through the steps and asked her to choose her earrings. After she chose her April birthstone it was over to the stool in the window.

The whole process was over in about 10 minutes - start to finish.

One of the things I love is that they do both ears at the same time. M knew what was coming when they tried to distract her with questions...but I think she was even surprised by how quickly it was done. 

The smile didn't leave her face for hours after we left the mall.

When we were done with the piercing we took full advantage of the discounts Claire's offers when you get your ears pierced. All their stainless steel earrings were $5 - so M got 4 pairs for when she is able to swap them out.

I have to say our experience at Claire's was really fantastic. They have great information on their website about after care - including a video that my daughter really found helpful.

Mark another milestone down in the books...these moments just keep coming.

I'm not sure I'm ready for them...but I don't seem to get a say anymore.

Monday, August 24, 2015

Becoming an Early Riser...

Over the years I have tried a lot of new workout regimes. Convinced that each one would be THE one. That one that finally worked with my schedule and showed results.

So far I've been skunked. Running has been the closest I have come to finding that right fit for me.

The challenge has been finding the time to fit it in. I don't like running on a treadmill but as I have always had to run at night after the kids went to bed - that was my only safe option.

I have always preferred working out in the morning. But as hubby starts work at 7 getting a morning workout in meant a very early wake up call.

And let me tell you...I am NOT a morning person.

But faced with no other options I decided to give the early morning call a try and started getting up at 6 for a 40 minute brisk walk/slow run every morning.

And I LOVE IT!!! Starting my day off with some quiet time to myself - alone with my music and my thoughts - has proven to be a great way to kick it off.

Plus...I get to see some pretty awesome views.

So far I'm seeing the results in the fit of my clothes and I like the feeling.

6am...I think this is the beginning of something beautiful...

See you tomorrow.